Surprising Power of QuestionsHow to Build Trust Without Breaking a Sweat

Questions have surprising power for Leaders trying to build Trust. For example:

“Could I ask you for some advice?”It’s a minor tweak to a common question, but it changes everything. Why? Because people love to give advice. Feedback? Not so much—it feels heavy, sometimes critical. But advice? That’s a gift.

And once they start, here’s the magic follow-up: “Interesting… Tell me more.”

This simple exchange does more than spark a conversation. It builds trust.

When you ask questions like this, you’re doing more than gathering input; you show genuine interest. You’re saying, “I value your perspective.” And that creates a bridge of trust, whether with your team, peers, boss, or customers.

Here’s the real kicker: It’s not just about the question; it’s about how you listen. Not the “I’m-nodding-while-thinking-of-my-response” listening. No, this is the lean-in, stay curious, dig deeper type of listening.

Want to take it up a notch? Try these questions:

  • “What are you seeing that I’m not seeing?”
  • “What do you expect from me for you to be successful?”
  • “What does support from me look like?”
  • “Is there anything I can start or stop doing to make this easier?”

These questions signal humility, courage, and a willingness to grow. That is how we build trust and develop as leaders.

And let’s not forget the follow-through. When someone gives you advice or answers your questions, show them you’re listening. Summarize what they’ve said. Act on it where you can. That’s how you reinforce trust and show you’re serious about improvement.

The next time you’re tempted to ask for feedback, pause. Try asking for advice instead. Watch how people open up—and how trust starts to flow naturally.

Trust isn’t built in a day, but one curious question at a time. It’s unstoppable. Always remember the surprising power of questions for building trust.

Which question will you try first?